I know I got quite a bit of advice about being the bigger person and not allow what happened with my mother in law to escalate. I have to admit I wasn’t the bigger person and I was a bit stand-off-ish towards her when I saw her briefly Friday night. I didn’t let the argument escalate but my actions showed that I was still upset.
I’m the kind of person that doesn’t like to ask for anything because of the fear of being rejected so when I do ask it takes a lot out of me. I’m so uncomfortable and I’m hoping that by not asking for any help other times that the person I’m asking will say “yes.” I do realize that things arise or I may be asking for help when there may be a previous engagement. All I ask is that person will tell me that; I don’t want someone to tell me “yes, I can do it” but then never show up or call me.
My mother in law knows this because I tell her to tell me if she can do it and if not please call me and let me know you can’t be there or won’t be able to help me. I blame me mostly because I should know better than to ask her to do something for me but I guess I’m still upset because this was my fault and I’m angry w/myself.
I will say this to her defense she doesn’t do this all the time so a lot of times she can be unpredictable on dependability. I did tell her last Friday “why do you do this only to me and not to my sister-in-law?” I know I shouldn’t compare us but I just had to put it out there not that I haven’t said this to her before.
Last thoughts: I feel more comfortable with my mother in law that I do with anybody else including my family. I don’t have anybody else to be honest but the thing about me is I will remove myself from the equation which means I’m upset. I know it’s wrong but I don’t have it in me to just say, “it’s ok” and move on. Any advice that will help me to become that person? I’m open for scriptures as well.